As we look forward to the new year, Jolie Wilkinson, an experienced fitness and wellbeing adviser, provides our Supermums with guidance on how to plan their goals for the year ahead!
Jolie is leading the well-being sessions on our exclusive Supermums Retreat in February and has worked for leading corporate brands to advise employees on mental and physical well-being.
Check out Jolie’s advice below….
“Nowadays I try to stay in the present as much as possible, so that I can enjoy each day as it comes. This rule is broken when I like to look ahead and think about the new year and my resolutions. For years now I have not made just one resolution. Why make one, when you can make as many as you want? A new year brings new beginnings, new opportunities and it’s a great time to release our fears.
Making many resolutions will help you to stay focused, if you break one you will keep going. If you have only one resolution and you break it, you will give up. For a week or so before a new year I start to make notes. What do I want to do more of? What do I want to start? What do I want to let go of? I make notes on my phone and when the list is complete I write it in my paper diary. That for me feels like it is more set in stone. Personally if I left the list on my phone, I don’t think I would bother checking where I am at through the year. I also allow myself all year to take action i.e if one of your resolutions is to lose weight – start the journey as soon as possible but allow yourself the whole year, so that you make healthier habits and are less likely to return to the weight you were.
I check my diary around once every 2 months to see where I am at. That way I keep track of where I am and can make adjustments where necessary.
If you would like some direction in making your resolutions, use this wheel of life.
Review the 8 Wheel Categories – think briefly what a satisfying life might look like for you in each area.
Next, draw a line across each segment that represents your satisfaction score for each area.
- Imagine the centre of the wheel is 0 and the outer edge is 10
- Choose a value between 1 (very dissatisfied) and 10 (fully satisfied)
- Now draw a line and write the score alongside (see example above)
IMPORTANT: Use the FIRST number (score) that pops into your head, not the number you think it should be!
Now, looking at the wheel here are some great questions to ask yourself:
- Are there any surprises for you?
- How do you feel about your life as you look at your Wheel?
- How do you currently spend time in these areas? How would you like to spend time in these areas?
- What would make that a score of 10?
- What would a score of 10 look like?
- Which of these categories would you most like to improve?
- How could you make space for these changes in your life?
- What help and support might you need from others to make changes and be more satisfied with your life?
- What change should you make first? And what change do you want to make first?
- If there was one key action you could take that would begin to bring everything into balance, what would it be?
Once you have prioritised your goals, decide on the first three steps you will take. Plan these steps into your diary so that you take action. If it helps to tell close friends and family about your actions so that they can support you. Alternatively make this YOUR journey and do it on your own to increase your confidence.
So start today making your resolutions!
Let’s check in with each other if you can join us for the Supermums Retreat in February. The retreat is the perfect opportunity for you to have valuable YOU time. If you don’t invest in yourself, you won’t have anything to give others. I hope to meet you in February.”